SEVEN CLUES TO SPOT THE NARCISSIST EARLY
By: Khalif Barkhadle
Digital Journalist
Published On: 23rd June 2024
I am constantly intrigued by early signs of narcissistic behavior, but here’s the silver lining: we’re in this together. I’ve been compiling a list of early warning signs, and trust me, sharing is caring. So, read until the end as I expose seven early clues of someone who is a narcissist.
Number 1: Love bombing.
Ever heard of this one? It’s like being showered with attention and affection but with an agenda. Narcissists are pros at this game. They’ll sweep you off your feet, making you feel like the most special person. They’ll listen to your every word, shower you with gifts, and make you believe you found your soulmate in record time.
Have you ever felt like you were moving too fast in a relationship?
Did the attention feel overwhelming yet strangely addictive? If so, you might have encountered a narcissist in disguise. They’re masters at making you feel like you’re living in a fairy tale, only to pull the rug out from under you when you least expect it. It’s important to recognize these red flags early on and trust your gut instincts before things spiral out of control.
Number 2: Inflated ego.
Let’s be clear, confidence is great, but when someone’s ego is as big as Mount kilimanjaro , it’s not so appealing. Narcissists are all about themselves, always chatting about how amazing they are. It’s like every talk you have with them turns into a show where they’re the main attraction, and you’re just stuck on the sidelines, feeling like your voice doesn’t matter.
Let me give you an example. Imagine you’re chatting with someone you’ve just met, and they start going on and on about all their accomplishments. They barely even ask about you or what you’ve been up to. It’s like they’re too busy patting themselves on the back. You try to interject with your own stories, but they quickly steer the conversation back to themselves. It leaves you feeling kind of invisible, like you’re just there to listen to them talk about how great they are.
It’s not exactly the most enjoyable experience; that’s what it’s like dealing with a narcissist’s constant need for attention and validation. Do you ever feel like you’re tiptoeing around your partner’s ego, afraid to burst their bubble?
Number 3: Lack of empathy.
Empathy is like the magic ingredient that makes relationships work. It’s what helps us understand each other, but for narcissists, it’s like trying to find a unicorn in the wild it’s pretty much impossible. They just can’t put themselves in your shoes because they’re too busy admiring their reflection in the mirror. Imagine you’re going through a tough time, and you open up to a friend about it.
Instead of offering a listening ear or showing any understanding, they just turn the conversation back to themselves, talking about how they’ve been through something similar but much worse. It’s like they can’t even begin to comprehend what you’re feeling because they’re so wrapped up in their world. It leaves you feeling pretty lonely, like you’re dealing with your problems all on your own.
That’s what it’s like dealing with a narcissist’s lack of empathy. They just can’t seem to grasp that other people have feelings too. Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t get you, no matter how hard you try to explain?.
Number 4: Self-centeredness.
A relationship where it feels like it’s all about them, all the time. Sound familiar? Well, for narcissists, that’s their favorite tune to play. They’re experts at making everything about them, leaving your needs forgotten in the background. Imagine you’re in a relationship where every decision, every conversation, every plan revolves around what they want.
It’s like they’re the director of a movie, and you’re just an extra in the background. You try to express your needs or desires, but they quickly get overshadowed by their demands and desires. It’s like you’re constantly walking on eggshells, afraid to rock the boat or speak up for yourself.
That’s the reality of being in a relationship with a narcissist; feeling like you’re invisible while they bask in the spotlight of their ego. Have you ever felt like you’re sacrificing your happiness just to keep your partner satisfied?
Number 5: Chronic lying.
Ever had that gut feeling that your partner isn’t being truthful? Well, you might be onto something because narcissists are like professional liars, weaving deceit into their everyday conversations like it’s no big deal. And when you finally confront them with evidence of their lies, get ready for a wild ride because they’ll twist the truth so much that you’ll start questioning your sanity and what feels like a gaslighting marathon.
Imagine you catch your partner in a lie about where they were last night. Instead of admitting the truth, they start making you doubt your memory, telling you that you must have misunderstood or imagined things. It leaves you feeling confused and frustrated, wondering if maybe you’re the wrong one. It’s like they’ve got this magical power to make you doubt even the most obvious truths, leaving you feeling like you’re trapped in a maze of deception.
That’s the roller coaster of emotions you’re in for when you’re dealing with a narcissist’s web of lies and gaslighting tactics. Have you ever caught your partner in a lie only to have them flip the script and make you question your sanity?
Number 6: Communication breakdown.
Healthy communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, Well, with narcissists, it’s a whole different story. It’s like stepping onto a battlefield every time you try to talk things out. They’ll take your words, twist them around, and use them against you. Even the tiniest disagreement can quickly escalate into a full-blown war zone.
Imagine you’re trying to have a calm conversation with your partner about something that’s been bothering you. Instead of listening, they start picking apart your words, making you feel small and insignificant. They might even bring up past mistakes or use your vulnerabilities against you. It’s like they’re more interested in winning the argument than actually resolving the issue.
And before you know it, what started as a simple conversation turns into a heated battle, leaving you feeling drained and defeated. That’s the reality of trying to communicate with a narcissist. It’s like trying to navigate a minefield without a map. Do you ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells around your partner, afraid to speak your mind?
Number 7: Contempt.
This one’s a doozy. Contempt is like poison for relationships; it corrodes trust and erodes love. Narcissists excel at dishing out insults, making you feel like you’re unworthy of their affection. So here is a question: Have you ever felt like your partner’s words were daggers aimed straight at your heart? These red flags are only half the battle.
The real challenge? Taking action. It’s about setting boundaries, honoring your worth, and knowing when to walk away. Remember, you deserve a relationship built on respect, kindness, and mutual understanding. So, take a deep breath, trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to put yourself first
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